At the age of 18, every male Haelsingar undergoes the so-called Ceremony of Manhood, marking the transition from boy to man. It is a public affirmation of the young man's role in Haelsingar social structure, showing to everyone that he is aware of his submissive position and his future purpose within the society.
For this ceremony, a makeshift hut is set up in the middle of as large a square as possible. This hut is constructed so that the women of the village or city to observe the ceremony without the participants inside the hut being able to see them. The ceremony begins with the boy being thoroughly washed by two virgin women. This represents the washing away of his immaturity and individual ego, preparing him for a life of duty and submission. Once this ritual cleansing has taken place, the boy swears an oath before the high priestess. In this oath, he vows to accept his role as a man with all its consequences, to always obey women, and to put the satisfaction of the woman first in his life. This oath is seen not as a humiliation, but as a noble act of devotion and purpose.
As soon as this oath has been taken, the final part begins, in which the boy has to prove his manhood. Here, one to three women previously chosen by the mother may share the bed with the young man. It should be mentioned that the practices performed here are by no means limited to a bed as a place of execution. Accordingly, the hut is also equipped with various fixtures that allow for alternative execution. Far from being seen as exploitative or taboo within their culture, this aspect of the ritual is understood as essential training. In a society where male children are rare and valued more for service than authority, a man's worth is largely measured by his ability to please, and obey. The women instruct the inexperienced young men in the art of female satisfaction. The more steadfast the young men prove to be, the more skillfully they manage, and the more willingly they serve the women, the higher their standing in society.
It is said that some initiates remain in this final phase for hours, demonstrating not only physical stamina but emotional devotion. Those who excel may earn reputations that follow them for life. Some are even chosen later as husbands by a Johtaja, the female chieftains of the clans, elevating their social status significantly.
What a fascinating society. I like that their culture isn't as clear cut as outsiders believe it to be, and the men are highly valued. Really interesting how the gender birth rate ratio is highly skewed.
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Thank you for your kind comment. Happy to see you like my approach on them. I really like how different they are from my other civilizations.